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Post by The Dan on Jul 2, 2015 17:00:13 GMT 12
Where do we get stuck in conversations?- Running out of things to say - Trying to keep it going - Trying to impress them Why do we get stuck?
- seeking approval - seeking attention - fear of losing them (abandonment) - attachment to outcomes - trying to get something from them - avoiding disapproval and confrontation What does it mean to keep a conversation going authentically (without trying)?- Allow silences to happen - Only talk about what you genuinely want to discuss - Let go of trying to keep them in the conversation - Make truthful observations about what you’re thinking and feeling, or what you see in them What can we observe to comment on?- Thoughts - Feelings - Environment - Their behaviour What’s the difference between questions and statements?- Questions take while statements give How can we give value through statements?- show them the food being prepared rather than the well presented meal - in other words: show them your thought process rather than a perfect thought - look for the good in them, genuinely, and praise them for it - let them see your vulnerable side to allow them to feel special and chosen The 3X Model of Explore, Express and Exchange- Think about what is true - Express that as accurately as possible - Wait for them to respond and listen carefully, before deciding what to say next Free resources:Article: Creating Authentic Connections
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