Post by The Dan on Jul 2, 2015 17:09:09 GMT 12
What does it mean to be vulnerable?
- take risks socially
- expose things you want to hide
- being open and transparent
- allow others to judge you
- let go of control
- present your weaknesses to others
- let go of outcomes
- allow others to affect you
What fears and doubts are raised in your mind when you think of “being vulnerable”?
- Rejection
- Judgment
- Disapproval
- loss of outcomes and rewards
- feeling alone
What’s the reward? How does being open and shamelessly honest affect a relationship?
- True connection
- Sense of freedom to be yourself
- Certainty about the other person liking you for you
- Safety to the other person to open up, through leadership (you show them it’s ok)
- relationship becomes more interesting over time
How do we present ourselves powerfully but vulnerably at the same time?
- No apology
- Willing to lose them
- Amused curiosity: narrate on yourself as if you’re discussing a third person, yet take ownership for yourself at the same time e.g. “I noticed myself having insecure thoughts, which I need to deal with”
How do we generate the courage required to be vulnerable?
- Practice on safe people and in safe environments first
- Take slightly greater risks each day
- Journal about your darkside so that you know what to share and how to share it
Your homework and resources:
- write a list of all the things you don't want other people to know about you
- find one person to admit one of these things too (but not with someone you already feel comfortable doing this with - learn to let go of 'trust')
- check out the TED talk on vulnerability by Brene Brown - www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability
- take risks socially
- expose things you want to hide
- being open and transparent
- allow others to judge you
- let go of control
- present your weaknesses to others
- let go of outcomes
- allow others to affect you
What fears and doubts are raised in your mind when you think of “being vulnerable”?
- Rejection
- Judgment
- Disapproval
- loss of outcomes and rewards
- feeling alone
What’s the reward? How does being open and shamelessly honest affect a relationship?
- True connection
- Sense of freedom to be yourself
- Certainty about the other person liking you for you
- Safety to the other person to open up, through leadership (you show them it’s ok)
- relationship becomes more interesting over time
How do we present ourselves powerfully but vulnerably at the same time?
- No apology
- Willing to lose them
- Amused curiosity: narrate on yourself as if you’re discussing a third person, yet take ownership for yourself at the same time e.g. “I noticed myself having insecure thoughts, which I need to deal with”
How do we generate the courage required to be vulnerable?
- Practice on safe people and in safe environments first
- Take slightly greater risks each day
- Journal about your darkside so that you know what to share and how to share it
Your homework and resources:
- write a list of all the things you don't want other people to know about you
- find one person to admit one of these things too (but not with someone you already feel comfortable doing this with - learn to let go of 'trust')
- check out the TED talk on vulnerability by Brene Brown - www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability