Post by The Dan on Sept 25, 2015 18:07:10 GMT 12
An ex of mine message me today, and it bought up the last conversation we'd had on Facebook way the fuck back in 2008! It was shocking to read, and it's the first time I believe I mentioned myself as a Nice Guy. This must have been about the time my journey truly started (though many years before I read No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover). These messages relate to me going back to the Camp America programme in USA, where I first met this girl (name removed). We were bf/gf but as you'll see, we never quite made it official...
Her:
hey dan,
I like the new look, I guess you aren't patchy anymore,haha. I heard a while ago that you were in NAME's band. How is it going? Do u think you will visit me when you are on your hugh rock star tour....someday. So I guess it is looking like you won't be going back to camp which kinda sucks because truthfully I think about u from time to time and i really miss have u as a friend u always made me laugh. So I have a bold question for you that has been bugging me, why did we not have sex at camp? I know I was to big of a pussy to say it then but I really wanted you. That is one thing I regret cause I really did care for you. I hope you don't see this as a creepy ex girlfriend email I just trying to get some clairity. Hope to see you this summer but if that is not in ur plans I understand. Let me how ur life is going and what ur plans are for the future. Hope to hear from u.
NAME
My response:
hi NAME
wow wicked long msg na it was good to read, and good to hear from ya. the patchy look went out so now im going with the partial beard look. i was so tempted to go back to camp but just dont have the means at the moment. but ive made a firm decision to go back to the states one way or another in 2009.
ooo tough question. na actually we didnt do it because I didnt make it happen i guess. i got the impression that you were kinda nervous (specially on that last night when it nearly happened.. you remember ). ive been trying to shake this "too nice" guy thing i got going on. i was always kinda crap at reading the signs... i know its no consolation but im better at it now
and you're not the creepy ex... you're like my canadian girlfriend
i'l write more another time - im on my way out
peace babe
Notice how I'm almost ready to take responsibility in this one. I think in between the first time I knew her and sending this message, I had learned some Pick Up Artist stuff. You can see my use of humour and aloofness to avoid what I'm really feeling (if I remember right it took me a long time to write this message and I was guilty at the time). In the message I still kind of 'blame' her by saying she's nervous, but you can see the first signs of a shift in me where I take responsibility for leading. It's awesome to read this now considering how myc I've changed. I barely recognise this guy now!
If any of you have some cringe-worthy messages you'd like to share, copy and paste below.
Her:
hey dan,
I like the new look, I guess you aren't patchy anymore,haha. I heard a while ago that you were in NAME's band. How is it going? Do u think you will visit me when you are on your hugh rock star tour....someday. So I guess it is looking like you won't be going back to camp which kinda sucks because truthfully I think about u from time to time and i really miss have u as a friend u always made me laugh. So I have a bold question for you that has been bugging me, why did we not have sex at camp? I know I was to big of a pussy to say it then but I really wanted you. That is one thing I regret cause I really did care for you. I hope you don't see this as a creepy ex girlfriend email I just trying to get some clairity. Hope to see you this summer but if that is not in ur plans I understand. Let me how ur life is going and what ur plans are for the future. Hope to hear from u.
NAME
My response:
hi NAME
wow wicked long msg na it was good to read, and good to hear from ya. the patchy look went out so now im going with the partial beard look. i was so tempted to go back to camp but just dont have the means at the moment. but ive made a firm decision to go back to the states one way or another in 2009.
ooo tough question. na actually we didnt do it because I didnt make it happen i guess. i got the impression that you were kinda nervous (specially on that last night when it nearly happened.. you remember ). ive been trying to shake this "too nice" guy thing i got going on. i was always kinda crap at reading the signs... i know its no consolation but im better at it now
and you're not the creepy ex... you're like my canadian girlfriend
i'l write more another time - im on my way out
peace babe
Notice how I'm almost ready to take responsibility in this one. I think in between the first time I knew her and sending this message, I had learned some Pick Up Artist stuff. You can see my use of humour and aloofness to avoid what I'm really feeling (if I remember right it took me a long time to write this message and I was guilty at the time). In the message I still kind of 'blame' her by saying she's nervous, but you can see the first signs of a shift in me where I take responsibility for leading. It's awesome to read this now considering how myc I've changed. I barely recognise this guy now!
If any of you have some cringe-worthy messages you'd like to share, copy and paste below.