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Post by The Dan on Jun 23, 2015 21:04:50 GMT 12
When you ask someone out on a 'date', usually what that means is you offer to create a new event in your life just for them. So if this is someone you just met/approached, either in person or online, you are basically saying to them "You are so important to me that I am changing my lifestyle just to suit you".
Are they really that important? Have they earned such a big investment from you yet? Or are you just following the 'rules' of dating?
There's another way...
Each week you can schedule a fun activity that YOU want to do. This is something that you'll do by yourself if you have to.
With this scheduled, you can now invite people to join you, if you wish for them to come. So instead of creating a new event for a complete stranger who hasn't invested in you yet, you can invite them to something you're already going to.
Look at the difference:
A) "Would you like to get a coffee sometime?" "How about dinner this Friday?" "We should hang out sometime"
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B) "I'm checking out this awesome new band on Friday, you should come along" "This weekend I'm going to give sailing a go. If you're free on Saturday I'd love for you to join me" "I had an impulse to check out the zoo, so that's my plan for Sunday. When's the last time you went to the zoo?"
Which is more appealing?
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