Post by The Dan on Jun 7, 2016 14:09:44 GMT 12
What does it mean to be vulnerable?
- emotional honesty as well as factual honesty
- remove the psychological armour
- allowing the possibility of being judged, hurt or rejected
- showing what you perceive to be as weakness
What is the benefit to being vulnerable?
- it's a demonstration of self-love that releases shame
- builds authenticity
- creates real connections with others
- allows you to find your tribe
- removes loneliness
What fears and doubts are raised in your mind when you think of “being vulnerable”?
- risk of rejection
- reputation tarnished
- benefits/outcomes being somehow taken away from you
What risks must you take to be vulnerable?
- allow people to judge, dislike and disapprove of you
- discover that people you thought were friends are not
How does being open and shamelessly honest affect a relationship?
- allows for a safe environment for both people to open up to each other
- creates a connection through having the same struggle
- removes all performance and "masks", freeing you from having to worry what the other person is thinking
- reduces likelihood of miscommunication or resentment building
How do we present ourselves powerfully but vulnerably at the same time?
- own what you say
- do not apologise for anything true about yourself
- aim to push people away with honesty rather than trying to make them like you
- allow yourself to express what you are thinking/feeling before you even understand it yourself - "Make a mess and then clean it up together"
How do we generate the courage required to be vulnerable?
- observe how fake your current connections are until it frustrates you into honest action
- one small step at a time through the Shame Grid exercise (below)
- practice on safe people first
Resources:
Connection video www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/what-it-means-to-truly-connect-with-another-person/
Connection article www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/how-to-create-an-authentic-relationship/
Shame Grid template
- emotional honesty as well as factual honesty
- remove the psychological armour
- allowing the possibility of being judged, hurt or rejected
- showing what you perceive to be as weakness
What is the benefit to being vulnerable?
- it's a demonstration of self-love that releases shame
- builds authenticity
- creates real connections with others
- allows you to find your tribe
- removes loneliness
What fears and doubts are raised in your mind when you think of “being vulnerable”?
- risk of rejection
- reputation tarnished
- benefits/outcomes being somehow taken away from you
What risks must you take to be vulnerable?
- allow people to judge, dislike and disapprove of you
- discover that people you thought were friends are not
How does being open and shamelessly honest affect a relationship?
- allows for a safe environment for both people to open up to each other
- creates a connection through having the same struggle
- removes all performance and "masks", freeing you from having to worry what the other person is thinking
- reduces likelihood of miscommunication or resentment building
How do we present ourselves powerfully but vulnerably at the same time?
- own what you say
- do not apologise for anything true about yourself
- aim to push people away with honesty rather than trying to make them like you
- allow yourself to express what you are thinking/feeling before you even understand it yourself - "Make a mess and then clean it up together"
How do we generate the courage required to be vulnerable?
- observe how fake your current connections are until it frustrates you into honest action
- one small step at a time through the Shame Grid exercise (below)
- practice on safe people first
Resources:
Connection video www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/what-it-means-to-truly-connect-with-another-person/
Connection article www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/how-to-create-an-authentic-relationship/
Shame Grid template