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Post by The Dan on Jun 22, 2015 10:45:00 GMT 12
The other night we launched Studio 7, and a bunch of people turned up for the free class. One lady was someone I thought I had previously coached, but I was mistaken. I've gotten to the point now where I meet so many new people all the time that I'm starting to confuse their faces in my mind. In Malcolm Gladwell's book Tipping Point he talks about how psychologically humans can only manage about 150 connections with people before they start forgetting major details. I must be at that point now. So this chick was basically a complete stranger, but I thought she was someone else. When she entered the room I gave her a big smile and hugged her. I then went on to talk about what I've been up to lately (leading with statements rather than asking questions). She looked a little perplexed but joined in the conversation. It wasn't til later that I realised my mistake. But what was interesting is that because I was so certain she was someone I already knew, my frame was solid, and I treated her like a friend. She reacted as if she knew me well also, and we had great rapport for the rest of the night. I've talked about this before in the Social Mastery series: Treat people like they're a stranger and they'll act distant and reserved; treat them like a friend and they'll become warm and open, as long as your frame is strong. TIP: One way to do this is to be more shamelessly affectionate when you meet people. Try adding a kiss on the cheek or a hug - upgrade your physical contact when meeting new people - and watch it build a higher level of connection effortlessly. Just remember, if you believe it's weird then they will too, but if you're shameless about doing it (which comes from doing it often), they will often just accept it. Peace
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Post by Kwando on Jun 27, 2015 9:37:11 GMT 12
haha i love this
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