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Post by The Dan on Jun 26, 2015 13:00:53 GMT 12
Hey guys, going on from that session we had on Honesty, here is the compliment formula for giving genuine, spontaneous and powerful feedback, compliments and recognition:
TRIGGER Identify what it was about them that got your attention, e.g. "I literally just saw you walking past the shop door..."
EFFECT Let them know how you've been affected by them, e.g. " and I got this big rush of adrenaline..."
SELF-REFLECTION Share something about yourself, compliment them in a way that removes judgment and instead shows your perspective e.g. " so I had to come and say Hi. I find the confident way you walk and dress incredibly sexy".
The same applies for critical feedback e.g. "When you interrupted my conversation before (trigger) I got really annoyed (affect) because I lose my train of thought easily and couldn't find my flow again afterwards (self-reflection).
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